Dating in the peace corps
How each person deals with the social changes will have a lot to do with their social environment and personality.
In many Peace Corps sites, technology will not be as accessible as it has been for me.
And there is no smoothing over the fact that two years and three months is a really, really, really long time to be apart from the person you love.
To make it work you will need to both look for opportunities to grow and challenge yourselves as individuals share those successes and failures with each other.
This turned out to be a happy twist of fate because it allowed our relationship to grow and deepen, but always with the same understanding that I would be going into the Peace Corps eventually.
You’ve got to be proactive about talking about things that you’re feeling, even though you may be embarrassed or frustrated at yourself for feeling them.
I suggest that other couples find shared experiences that can connect them across the distance, be it tv shows, books, hobbies, or work-related topics. That seems like a bit of a cop-out, because it pretty much amounts to communication, but the advent of Skype, blogs, Flickr, You Tube, Facebook, and Gmail have made physical distance much less relevant.
To stay connected we video chat about twice per week, email periodically, share links on Facebook, follow each others’ blogs, I upload videos to show what my house looks like, and create photo albums to make my life more concrete and accessible to everyone back home.
You’ve got to trust that if things are meant to work out, then they will work out, and if they aren’t, they won’t.
The three factors that I think have made the biggest difference in our staying close and committed, apart from intrinsic relationship things, are clear expectations, shared experiences, and the internet.